Your fists are closed. Wrapped inside is all the stress of things you cannot control: your job, your family, your future. All clawing to escape your grasp. But you aren't gonna open those fists; no sir.
See, if you let go, you will be confirming the theory you fear most: that you don't actually have total control. You want to know you can handle this. After all, you know how to get things done!
Your flawed perception of strength says that not being able to fix things is weakness. So you've been trying your hardest to fix the flaws in life. You believe sooner or later things will work out the way you want. You just need to keep pushing!
So you push and push... and push people away. And most tragically you push God out of the picture as you seek to establish YOUR kingdom on earth, the way YOU think it should be.
I believe one of the biggest problems in failing relationships is a lack of understanding the difference between what one person controls and what the other person controls.
Trying too hard to fix other people's problems can become hypocritical because it overlooks the fact that we all have our own issues to deal with.
"How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." -Luke 6:42
Focus on what you can change in your life and be responsible for your actions, then let the rest fall where it falls. Don't try to fix other people's problems. Do what you can to help them and pray but understand your limits.
And in the most important relationship, the one with our Heavenly Father, we often make the same mistake of trying to control things that are not our responsibility.
But God told us not to worry about what we can't control:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." -Philippians 4:6
God wants us to loosen our grasp on things we can't (and probably shouldn't) control. We should humbly bring those things before God in prayer. After all, He can do a much better job anyway.
God will hold us accountable for what we did with what we were given, but He never designed us to hold the weight of the world on our shoulders. Thank goodness!